My Blog

I feel like as my blog develops, I discover more of what I want it to be about.

I basically want to encourage other frum women who's lives are one big balancing act. It really doesn't matter if you work or are a stay at home mom. Whether you have large or small families. We, as women, are always balancing the responsibilities of the home, whatever they may be. Let's face it: As helpful as our husband's may be, when all is said and done, the running of the home falls on our shoulders.

For example: when I host my husband's students for a meal, I like to have a large variety of delicious food. My husband doesn't understand this. After a 50 or 60 hour work week, as Thursday night rolls around and I lay my head on my soft marshmellowy pillow and my husband says something like, "Good night, andwe'erhostingtenguystomorrownight, and sleep well.", he just doesn't understand the big deal. To quote him, "You throw in a chicken, you whip up a kugel, and you're done!"

So yeah, our husbands may be helpful, but at the end of the day, if we want things to be neat and clean, if we want the food to be plentiful and tasty, if we want our children to go to school in appropriate clothing, ("Dear, why is the 8 year old wearing the baby's pajama bottoms as a scarf?"), then the responsibility will most likely fall on our shoulders. And that's a big responsibility. And it only gets bigger.

Y'know, back in the day, a woman's day revolved around the cooking, the cleaning, the home making, and little else. These days we all have so much on our plates. As a working mom certainly, but even as a stay at home mom, the day seems to start and end with one big 'To Do' List. So how? How does the modern woman balance everything?

I'd like this blog to show some insight into my very busy life. A life with 4 children and a husband with difficult hours. A life with 2 full time jobs, about 12 hours a day. A life with parents and in laws 6,000 miles away-there's no such thing as 'dropping the kids off by Grandma so I can run errands'. A life of being in 5 places at once and doing 5 things at once so that everyone and everything has my utmost attention and I come out and the end of the day alive!